Juvenile Delinquency....caused by parents or juveniles themselves???

One of the most important issues in crime today is Juvenile Delinquency. There has been a national fear of delinquency since the 1980's.Juvenile Delinquency has existed for centuries. It is too often the case that people see it as something "new." Juvenile delinquency is a problem that has to be dealt with by society. Over the years, countless efforts have been made to find a comprehensive explanation for delinquency.

The results of these efforts have offered possible reasons as being both biological and social. It is still debatable as to what forces have the greatest influence on youth crime, but it is undoubted that several factors clearly make an impact. The direct relationships a child has with concrete social elements, like his family and friends, are likely to give some intimation of his involvement in crime. However, it must be noted that there are more abstract contexts for socialization that also exist as potential explanations for a child’s behavior. The most prominent of these less specific forces are the media, community, and religion. It has been argued extensively that these three elements represent a major source of delinquency.

Everyone has at one time or another heard accusations against television, for instance, and how it has such degenerating capabilities in relation to young minds. Equally common are the various public proclamations about the lack of brotherhood among citizens of this country. These complaints are nothing new to our society; before television was vilified, it was radio, and before radio it was comic books. In short, these problems merely exist as different manifestations of an age-old concern.

From my point of views, everything that is mentioned plays a great expects this problem. But the most priority goes to the parents and the juveniles themselves. But who is responsible for this Juvenile Delinquency?? The parents or the kids themselves?? We can't just blame on only one person. Both the parents and kids play a strong part in this together. For now, majority blame goes to the parents. Since they are the mature person in this picture, they have to play a bigger part in this issue.

Parents tend to bring the children up in a good way...according to them the perfect way. But is that really the perfect way?? We can come across some parents being like friends towards to their children. By giving them the freedom and the understanding they need in life. This is good in a way but not always. This can cause parental negligence. On the other hand, there is some where they will be very strict and uptight. Which suffocates the children and provokes them in a way to retaliate. This is also a way of parental negligence. So which is the right and better way to bring the kids up???

Parents have to balance their upbringing evenly with both leniency and strictness. Parents have to be a friend where the kids can feel at ease to approach them with whatever problems or feelings they are in doubt. Parents have to learn to give the kids space to breathe and not dictate their every move. Learn to respect their feelings also. There are also some issues the living environment is not suitable for a child's upbringing. Families where either parent are not around as in they might b divorced or widowed. Or even where there is always fights between the spouses. Unsuitable living environment is also one reason leading to juvenile delinquency.

All this attributes to parental negligence. If a living environment is not suitable or the parents are not approachable, the children will look for alternate approach. We have come across people shoplifting due to avenge their anger or for just the mere thrill. This is the same reason why a child turns to shoplifting, grafitti and other offences.Parents do fail to understand that their behavior can be also being the cause. For the children to be misled into wrong paths and get acquainted with the wrong companies in life.

This misled children, tends to get attracted to friends who can be a wrong choice in life. We might have come across cases, where these kids get acquainted with other kids from the secret societies or other forms of illegal groups. This is where they get easily accepted and get misled easily. According these juveniles, these peers give them the necessary attention and concern and understanding that their parents failed to do so. This is also the partial cause of juvenile delinquencies. Not only the parents are to be fully blamed for this cause but the children also share the blame. If the living environment is not suitable, these kids fail to approach the parents and tell them the proper needs or they failed to approach the right procedures, to re-arrange things. They easily allow themselves to be lured into wrong companies.

This juveniles fails to see that instead of seeking internal help, they seek externally and accept things we are not in the first place is right. These kids feel so vulnerable that even the wrong things tend to look the right ones in that moment. The kinds of attention they get from this peers make them feel so wanted and involved that they feel more at home with this people than they feel at home. So when these peers ask them to do anything, they feel obliged and tends to do what ever was told to do so. These people take these kids naive ness for their advantage. Where this kids fail to see whether they are being used for the wrong purpose or not. This leads to shoplifting, extortions, gangsterism, stealing, cheating and some other major offences.

When the parents gets to find out about such problems, they forget to stop to think if it is only the kids fault or is there any other factors they have to look into. The moment the parents find out about this, they blame and use harsh matters to react towards the juveniles. This also makes the issue even uglier to handle. These juveniles tends to take this has that the parents do not love them anymore. Actually, theses juveniles also fails to see if they were also wrong. At times, we can come across juveniles who make such mistakes not younger than 18yrs old. Which is a legal age for certain countries? They tend to fail to use their given maturity thru educations to think if they are doing the wrong thing or if the parents are just being harsh with them.

When we want to point fingers in who to blame….there is no end to it. Juveniles will blame the parents and the parents will blame the juveniles. Or even parents blaming the media and other aspects for the cause of juvenile delinquencies. Matter of fact, everyone plays an important role in building a proper family. Everyone should stop and think if what they are doing is right or wrong or will it be the cause for some other major issues. When everyone works hand in hand, there will not be anyone blamed the reason for such issues.

Basic Commandments In Making A Relationship Work....

We have the 10 commandments. We have guidlines for not certain but for majority things. But
do we have any guidelines on how to make a relationship last long??
Hmmmm....I don't seem to come across any. Have anyone??

Than how are we to make a relationship last long? There should be something written
somewhere about how we can go about rescuing a dieing relationship. Actually, by reading
them in words are not going to help us.this kind of stuffs are not to be followed according
to book but to our own mentality.

What are the basic fundamentals in a relationship??

Love...Commitment...Understanding...Passion...Communication...
Compromising...Patience...Forgivness...Trust...
Did i leave out anymore?? These are some i know about. There might be more than just this
few.

LOVE....
You can find the meaning for it in the dictionary but to know the real meaning you have to
feel it and go thru it.Than only you will be able to understand the meaning.Love is about
giving and sharing.It is also about forgiving and forgetting.

COMMITMENT....
You have to feel connected and be able to commit to what ever you have taken to undergo.
Love is a commitment of feelings.Marriage is a lifetime commitment.If you are committed to
the relationship,than only you will be able to feel it truthfully and take decisions that
will not jeopardize the love or marriage.

UNDERSTANDING....
You have to understand what the other partner is trying to say or do.You have to put yourself
in the other shoe and analyze the situation.Understanding is important in any relationships.
We must always understand the problem and try to solve the situation.We should never ever
jump into conclusions and rush into anything without finding the real solutions.

PASSION....
Is there any wrong in feeling the passion once you felt when you were young? I don't see any
wrong in it.The mistake the women do is that they tend to deny the passion they feel for their
husband after they had kids or if she has passed the 30 odd age.Some women finds it a embaressment to make the first move on their own husband.Passion is also one way where the relationship stays spicy and interesting.How many of our parents or anyone, after the age of 40 plus have they made love to their wife or husband?? As for the women, we can say very rare.As for men, they are sexually reborn after the age of 40.This is also the partial reason for some men to have affairs outside the marriage.Even some women find pleasure in other men because their husband don't make them feel the passion once they made them felt.It is nothing,absolutely nothing wrong to feel passionate in a relationship in any age.

COMPROMISING....
Hmmm....this one....not many of us has it with us.If one person in a relationship compromise to the other things will be find n smooth.If both the parties are stubborn and adamanet in a particular issue, there is no ending to the problem.One party as to be giving in sort.It is not necessary that only one person has to be always giving in.Couples have to take turns in giving to any situation so that it balances it off.

PATIENCE....
Patience is golden.Not many of us has the pateince for certain things.Being patience will help to think clearly and source for solutions.Impatience can drive to anger and losing temper easily.Always be patience and draft out the problem and the solutions.

FORGIVENESS....
It is not easy forgiving people.Some tend to forgive people easily.There are some who will forgive others but will not forget what the mistake they done.Once you have decided to forgive someone,it is better to forget the issue. We must learn to forgive the past mistakes of our partners and accept them for who they are.Past histories are better to be forgotten and not brought to the present or the future to torment the other.

TRUST....
In the current past moving world,it is not easy to trust people easily.Especially for those who have trusted others and in the end got betrayed.They will have a hard time to trust a person 100%.We can not blame them.They have their own individual reasons.In a relationship it is very important to trust one another.When we talk about marriage,Trust play a very important part in it.Since we are marrying someone,we trust them so much that we have decided to run our life with them.But why is this trust tends to wear off as years goes by for some??For some it strengthens in every year they spend with each other.

Learn to tell "I LOVE YOU" to your loved ones at least 3-5 times a day.It is not that difficult.A simple note scribbled and left on the refirgerator door or a sms or a silent whisper across a crowded room makes alot of different.How many tell their partner that word after years of relationship??Some tend to think,that since they are married for years, the other will know that they still love them.No!! Thats not true.A simple jesture or word will deepen the meaning and bind you closer to the other.Doing little little things together also helps in strengthening the relationship.Remembering dates such as :
the first day you met each other....the first day you told one another I LOVE YOU...the day you proposed to the other...
etc...etc...

Getting the other material stuff is not enough to show how much the other meant to each other.Words are more powerful than actions at time.Words that comes truthfully and deep from our heart weighs more than material stuff.some of us could have came across relationships that lasted an eternity.Some ended even before it started to branch out. All of us should just sit down and think about how we can make our relationship last an eternity and strengthen it day by
day.

Think about it people....Whether you want to take the extra mile to work out your relationship so that it will last long or just let it go and see how far it can go. If you guys have any more points in what other ways we can make a relationship work and last longer,please send me your
comments.

Why Do People Fall In Love???

I really wonder....Why do people fall in love??
Most to most, they succeed in it or they get hurt or they get
nothing worth out of it.
Which is which is the truth?
Till now i don't have the answer for it...hehehe...

Its a unique feeling to fall in love...but at the same time,
the effect of falling out of love is also unique.
For those who have gone thru will know what i am reffering to.

Those days 'Love at first sight' was thought Divine.Because it
was true and long lasting.
But now? 'Love at first sight' meant Puppy Love / Crush / Infatuation
etc etc....
During our grandparents and even before their time,they marry the person
they love.That also, first love was their life partner.But now!!!!
Can someone please englighten me, if there are still people around who is still
in that ancient time? I doubt so.

In my opinion,Love is just like a decoration on a christmas tree.Up for deco n than
pull down when its over...Why tarnish the name of LOVE? If you are not up to it,Don't
do it.

Love is a beautiful word where you can't define it in words.You really have to feel it
genuinely, than only you will know the real meaning of it.

People ending their life because of a love failure is rising day by day.Don't this people
know that it is not the end of the world if you are dumped.Gals committing suicide for guys.
Guys commiting suicide for gals.This is why they fell in love for??
When u ask the gals,they will say that,they got no choice.
Why? Because, they lost their virginity to them so they must end their life. You think this
reason is worth a life?? Do we see any guys comitting suicide just because they lost their
virginity to their galfriends?? Than why do this gals have to end life for this reasons?

Please gals!! You can do better than that.If you were to look into this gals profiles, you
be shocked to see that partial of them are highly educated gals.Gals that forgot to use their
brains to think if it was worth dieing for a guy.Same goes for guys...If you guys thought i am
only going to support the gals than you are wrong.
There are some brainless guys where they commit suicide or destroy their life for a gal whom they
knew for a short life.Didn't this people for once stopped to think that they have other things in
life to consider about.

For example..their parents,studies,ambition,dreams...etc..etc...
Did their parents gave birth to them so that they can end their life for some people who just came
in a swift of a wind and left? What is the worth of the dreams and ambition they had all their lifes?
Is it worth giving all this for a love which was never in the first place yours??

This is only one example...Many of us would have came across other type of foolish people who are in
relationship.Have you came across gals in a relationship where they will be still sticking to this guy,
who beats them up?? Oh yes...there are quite a handful of them around us.
The guy will beat them up for talking to other guys or doing things which they don't favour. I wonder how
the situation will be if the table was turned around on them....Interesting right? hehehe....
But there gals who will turn their boyfrends life a living hell also. Everything the guys do they will
suspect and always fight n quarrel with them. This kind of gals will turn this guys mental.

There are even people who use the name of love and destroy lives.Such as many you and myself are bound
to know. Guys will say I LOVE YOU to gals so that they can have a free RIDE (i am aware you will know what
i am reffering to). Gals will say I LOVE YOU to guys to get pampered by money and material stuffs.Is this
LOVE???

There are also some who fall in love and live happily.There are some who will go thru hardship together and
strengthen their love on the path.They understand each others needs,likes,thoughts....etc etc.
They respect one another's feelings and thoughts. When they have a slight misunderstandings, they sit down
and talk things out instead of giving each other cold treatment and screaming and shouting.

I have seen love lasting so long that it ends in marriage n lifelong standing strong. I have also seen love
lasting till marriage but that marriage doesn't last long.There is also a kind of love where it doesn't last
till marriage. Some don't even last till their first anniversary or even a month. *Sigh*

There are people who have phobia for falling in love. Even when the right guy comes by, their phobia will be
haunting them and make things worst for them also. Is it their fault that they are scared to fall in love or
accept it from others?? Isn't love suppose to be wonderful? Beautiful? Divine?
Than why this much of confusion??

People if you are not sure if you up to fall in love or love someone,don't do it. Don't use this heavenly
word to get free sex or anything.This also applies for gals. Now we can't blame the guys alone.Gals do play
a part in this game.

I would really appreciate if you guys drop me your own opinion of this matter.

Would you want to be in this shoes?

Which is worst?
Being an orphan? Or......
Having parents but living as orphans?

If you ask me...When one is living as an orphans with parents around them.
That feeling is the worst to bare than anything.You will be living in the same
house but you don't address one another or see eye to eye.What ever you don't do
is wrong and what ever you do is STILL wrong.

You will run out of things to satisfy them.Till you are at your wits end and completely
drained out.I wonder if there are people out there who are goin thru such thing in life...
For this kind of people, their close friends are world to them.And they easily get cheated
in love.

They are dieing to feel loved.So When there is someone who comes by their path and showers
them with concern and love, they grab on to it tightly.And they won't realise that this
love and concern is not true till the end they get dumped.I have noticed this alot and gone
thru some also.When someone shows this kind of affection towards them, they will b on the top
of the world feeling as if they are the most happiest person.And when it fails...they are in
fact the world's most saddest person.

For those whose inner strenght is great will be able to pick themselves up in just matter of
few days and move on with life.This are the people who can face any kind of obstacles thrown
to them and take defeat lightly.
For those whose inner strenght is not great will be forever mopping in sadness n rejection.They
will not have confident in whatever they do.They will start thinking negatively in all aspects.
It is hard to change this kind of people unless they help themselves.

This people need love and concern.They are not the kind of person who will ask for material
stuffs.They just need affections,love,conern,etc etc etc...I know this are limited in this
hectic world.But,if u come across someone like this,and u show them genuinely this feelings,
you will know what i meant.The little smile you put on their face will reflect back to you.


Are you wondering how i know this little facts about such things?? hehehehe.....
Would you guys believe if i were to say...i gone thru it and still going thru it????
But there are even more worst cases out there than this...I tell myself this so that
i won't loose faith and my fighting spirit to face the obstacles this world has thrown and
still throwing at me

PS : I am not writing this to get any kind of pitiness.Please, i hate that.I am just expressing
my views so that if u were to come across such people you might know how to treat them.And in future,
if you are to have your own family,please don't treat anyone like that.

Are marriages really made in HEAVEN????

Are marriages really made in heaven?? Or is it something that was said by our fore-fathers?? I think marriages are not made in heaven but made real in our own hearts n hands. Don't you agree with me?? I have came across alot of couples both married and non married ones. They might have known each other for days/weeks/months and their marriage can last for eternity. There also some where, they known each other for years but marriage?? Last only for few short years. I wonder why....Think about it.....
Are we not suppose to know each other very well in this long time to know if we are fit to get married or not??Than why??Let me tell u some examples that i came across along my path in life.
Ramesh & Kavitha are my secondary school friends....i knew then for 10yrs now.Cute couples!!!! :P They started dating each other when they were in Sec1.Ramesh is a christian and Kavitha is an indian. As usual, Love is blind to all this factors.After O levels, i lost contact with them for abt 2yrs.After my ITE, I did bumped into them once and got shocked out of my life!! They were still dating each other!! They got engaged last year n getting married this saturday (04/02/06) You guys know something??? They have been together for 14yrs now.And all this years,they have gone thru alot together and day by day their love for one another as is becoming stronger and stronger.
And, on the other hand i have this friend,whom i don't wish to mention the name.Got to know this gal for abt 1yr plus and got married before the 2nd year of courtship.And they also had a baby boy. But before they could celebrate their 1st yr anniversary, they are already started having trouble in that short time frame. Now after 3yrs of marriage, they have already filled for a divorce and the kid....is being thrown around.
This is one case. There is one more interesting couples. She is my best friend, Susie n her fiancee FRESH (the unfresh man). hehehe.... :P They knew each other thru MIRC and started dating one another after knowin each other for many years...that one don't ask me why they took so long.... Now they are preapring for their upcoming ROM and wedding in MAY.That is one love that is true and ever lasting forever. So tell me guys.....Am i right to say that marriages are not made in heaven but made to perfection in our hands?? I may be wrong or i might not be. Please drop me your views regarding this. I am always keen in welcoming other's views.
By the way, Lets all wish this 2 couples a blissful wedded life and long lasting life filled with love with each other....

A Simple Thought From My Heart.....

Where is the love?

Is it in a mother
When she looks on the face
Of her sleeping son?

Is it in a man
When he holds her hand
And understands?

Is it in the boy
When he says out of the blue,
“I love you Mom and Dad”?

Is it in the man on the cross
When he asks his God
“Please forgive them”?

Humanity has spent centuries
Trying to define love
But there is no question
That we can find love
Wherever we find humanity

I am both sad and glad
To be human
My cats are gentle soft ebony

Do they have an opinion
Of their felinity?

My First Day At The Blogger....

Ok let me see.....hmmm... This is my 1st day writting a blog.i always wanted to write a diary but scared that others will view it.But now to think about it,it is nothing wrong to view ones thought. Coz,it will help others to understand the other better. I normally express my thoughts thru poems,and its been yrs since i last sat down to express my feelings and thoughts coz i started hiding them to myself.After reading a handful of blogs and the way they expressed....I was thinking " What the heck...i should learn to express myself than bottling everything in me" And this enlightening also i got it after reading someone's webby.He is good in expressing his words not for himself but for others. worth checking out I know some are written in words we might not understand but try goin thru.... So from now on,you guys will be seeing alot of nonsense from me in here beside hearing and going thru with me....hehehehe.... What to do,you people are my friends and meant to suffer with me.... Just kidding guys.... Till next time..