Basic Commandments In Making A Relationship Work....

We have the 10 commandments. We have guidlines for not certain but for majority things. But
do we have any guidelines on how to make a relationship last long??
Hmmmm....I don't seem to come across any. Have anyone??

Than how are we to make a relationship last long? There should be something written
somewhere about how we can go about rescuing a dieing relationship. Actually, by reading
them in words are not going to help us.this kind of stuffs are not to be followed according
to book but to our own mentality.

What are the basic fundamentals in a relationship??

Love...Commitment...Understanding...Passion...Communication...
Compromising...Patience...Forgivness...Trust...
Did i leave out anymore?? These are some i know about. There might be more than just this
few.

LOVE....
You can find the meaning for it in the dictionary but to know the real meaning you have to
feel it and go thru it.Than only you will be able to understand the meaning.Love is about
giving and sharing.It is also about forgiving and forgetting.

COMMITMENT....
You have to feel connected and be able to commit to what ever you have taken to undergo.
Love is a commitment of feelings.Marriage is a lifetime commitment.If you are committed to
the relationship,than only you will be able to feel it truthfully and take decisions that
will not jeopardize the love or marriage.

UNDERSTANDING....
You have to understand what the other partner is trying to say or do.You have to put yourself
in the other shoe and analyze the situation.Understanding is important in any relationships.
We must always understand the problem and try to solve the situation.We should never ever
jump into conclusions and rush into anything without finding the real solutions.

PASSION....
Is there any wrong in feeling the passion once you felt when you were young? I don't see any
wrong in it.The mistake the women do is that they tend to deny the passion they feel for their
husband after they had kids or if she has passed the 30 odd age.Some women finds it a embaressment to make the first move on their own husband.Passion is also one way where the relationship stays spicy and interesting.How many of our parents or anyone, after the age of 40 plus have they made love to their wife or husband?? As for the women, we can say very rare.As for men, they are sexually reborn after the age of 40.This is also the partial reason for some men to have affairs outside the marriage.Even some women find pleasure in other men because their husband don't make them feel the passion once they made them felt.It is nothing,absolutely nothing wrong to feel passionate in a relationship in any age.

COMPROMISING....
Hmmm....this one....not many of us has it with us.If one person in a relationship compromise to the other things will be find n smooth.If both the parties are stubborn and adamanet in a particular issue, there is no ending to the problem.One party as to be giving in sort.It is not necessary that only one person has to be always giving in.Couples have to take turns in giving to any situation so that it balances it off.

PATIENCE....
Patience is golden.Not many of us has the pateince for certain things.Being patience will help to think clearly and source for solutions.Impatience can drive to anger and losing temper easily.Always be patience and draft out the problem and the solutions.

FORGIVENESS....
It is not easy forgiving people.Some tend to forgive people easily.There are some who will forgive others but will not forget what the mistake they done.Once you have decided to forgive someone,it is better to forget the issue. We must learn to forgive the past mistakes of our partners and accept them for who they are.Past histories are better to be forgotten and not brought to the present or the future to torment the other.

TRUST....
In the current past moving world,it is not easy to trust people easily.Especially for those who have trusted others and in the end got betrayed.They will have a hard time to trust a person 100%.We can not blame them.They have their own individual reasons.In a relationship it is very important to trust one another.When we talk about marriage,Trust play a very important part in it.Since we are marrying someone,we trust them so much that we have decided to run our life with them.But why is this trust tends to wear off as years goes by for some??For some it strengthens in every year they spend with each other.

Learn to tell "I LOVE YOU" to your loved ones at least 3-5 times a day.It is not that difficult.A simple note scribbled and left on the refirgerator door or a sms or a silent whisper across a crowded room makes alot of different.How many tell their partner that word after years of relationship??Some tend to think,that since they are married for years, the other will know that they still love them.No!! Thats not true.A simple jesture or word will deepen the meaning and bind you closer to the other.Doing little little things together also helps in strengthening the relationship.Remembering dates such as :
the first day you met each other....the first day you told one another I LOVE YOU...the day you proposed to the other...
etc...etc...

Getting the other material stuff is not enough to show how much the other meant to each other.Words are more powerful than actions at time.Words that comes truthfully and deep from our heart weighs more than material stuff.some of us could have came across relationships that lasted an eternity.Some ended even before it started to branch out. All of us should just sit down and think about how we can make our relationship last an eternity and strengthen it day by
day.

Think about it people....Whether you want to take the extra mile to work out your relationship so that it will last long or just let it go and see how far it can go. If you guys have any more points in what other ways we can make a relationship work and last longer,please send me your
comments.